Who are you trying to please?

What are you doing on a daily basis in hopes that you will make someone happy?  Many of us struggle daily with worrying about pleasing others and end up living our lives for someone else.  We want people to like us, we want our spouse, parents, children, friends, etc. to be happy and to like us.  It is impossible to make someone else happy.  The ONLY person we can control is ourselves.  The person we need to please and make happy is ourselves.  Think about people you know or have known in your life.  The ones that you feel good around.  What made you feel good around them?  I think it was the ones who were positive, friendly, upbeat and saw the good things in life.  They weren't trying to please or impress people they were being themselves.  On the other hand think about people that you try to avoid, dread calling, don't like to invite over...what do these people have in common?  They are negative, drain you, remind you of every bad thing you have ever done in your life, bring you down, and make you start doubting yourself.  Everyday we make a decision about what kind of day we are going to have.  We do that with every choice we make each day.  We decide whether we want to look at the positive side of a situation or the negative.  It is a continual process all day.  The thoughts we have, the way we say things; for example: one thing happens in the morning and how many of us immediately say, "Oh no, It's going to be a bad day". Sometimes even before we walk out of the house in the morning.  We need to start listening to our inner voice and doing the things that bring us happiness, things that make us feel positive.  When we try to please others, many times they don't even notice, sometimes they don't care, and in the long run it makes us into someone we're not.  I'm not saying you shouldn't do things for other people.  Many of us get pleasure from helping someone.  What I am saying is that you need to stop and think of why you are doing the things you are doing.  Is what you are doing changing you?  Is it something you don't really want to do but you feel obligated or you are saying yes because you don't want someone to be upset or mad at you.  Are you going to feel resentment, or like they owe you?  Then you are not being your authentic self and you need to step back and ask yourself what is your motivation.
I lived for many years trying to please my parents, my friends, my husband, and my children and all it got me was 134 pounds overweight and they weren't happy either.  When you live your life listening to your inner voice and being true to who you are you will attract people that like you for who you are!  These are the people you want in your life because they are the people that will appreciate you and all the unique and wonderful qualities you were born with.  YOU ARE ENOUGH!  BE WHO YOU ARE AND LIVE A LIFE FULL OF HAPPINESS and BLESSINGS!
God Bless,
Nena